wait..and see..

I have learnt that these 3 simple words :"wait and see" , indeed hold a magical way to things..

As when one waits and bids her time...one can get to see many things. .on a larger scale..One can get a much more clear picture and things become to take form...

so its never do good, any good at all to rush things over..patience is undeniably a virtue as well as a good Guidance..!

mastering change rather than allowing it to master you

I have learnt that ,...

sometimes things might not be what you wanted or expected them to be. And these things can come one after another in sequences to test your ability to handle them, to let you learn patience, let you pick up social skills to mingle among those whom you would rather stay away from if given choice! Perhaps, you cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your ATTITUDE toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. ..one must not forget to relax in life and let loose of thyself in this fast paced stressful life....

lessons learnt..

"To the question of your life, you are the only Answer.

To the problems of your life, you are the only Solution"

dilibear yet..another lesson learnt

28th Nov 2007

I have learnt that it takes both courage and serious consideration to come up with the right decision or the so-called correct choice when one is put in a dilemma or difficult situation where by neither can one take a step forward nor backward . And it takes even more guts and remarkable strength to stick to the decision/ path chosen as with human’s complexity nature, regret and doubts of what-if will surely follow like a shadow to the aftermath of it. In much coincident to Dilobear’s lesson leant today, I would like to mention about this close friend of mine whose character I admire greatly. He is the type of person who will never ever check out the prices or compare them after he had bought things, be those cheap items or pricey stuffs like pc or hp! His thumb of rule is that one should never look back once decision has been made and have acted upon on that particular choice. For he said that there will always be a better offer somewhere at some unknown shops but surely one can’t be smart or well-informed enough to know it all. Content is what we should practice to achieve and in control of emotion is what one should be good at!!
Woah, isn’t it? Yes. Such is a person I have as a friend and I am so proud of this character of his. Someday if miracles do happen, I will introduce him through my post with all my readers-cum-friends.

things to take note...

01. YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY...
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period you're around.

02. YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS...
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life.
Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.
You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

03. THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS...
Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation.
The "Failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works".

04. A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL LEARNED...
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it.
When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.

05. LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END...
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons.
If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

06. "THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE"...
When your "There" has become a "Here",
you will simply obtain another "There" that will, again, look better than "Here".

07. OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU...
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

08. WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU...
You have all the tools and resources you need.
What you do with them is up to you.
The choice is yours.

09. YOUR ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU...
The answers to life's questions lie inside you.
All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS...
Unless you consistently stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself,
everything you've just read won't mean any thing.

dilobear's lesson 2

i've learnt that ...

with time as healing tools, no matter what, people will forget what you have said, they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel...

so don't do things which you will regret,

don't wait till everything is beyond hope or there is no more chance of any salvation to it!

Determination

i've learnt that ..

i am as stubborn as a MULE and as determined as ever (only with regards to certain issue)

and i believe strongly that one should have determination in matters that are of priority to oneself!

And I must admit too that being simply me, in my view, GUYS should have much more determination than GALS because evenetually it would be them to "lead" the family as no matter how much we want to deny, the MEN still hold the position as the HEAD of family..

if you want to get to the mountain and can't get through it,

try going around it
if you can't go around it,

try going over it

if you can't go over it,

ask yourself if getting over to the other side is all that important!

if it is,

set your heart out to dig a tunnel through it

if the tunnel method still doesn't work,

try hiring a copter and go above it.

if this still doesn't work,

try demolishing it..

i believe that if one badly want something, one should have full determination to get it.

if he/she is not doing much for his/her goal, i guess it would mean that the goal is not worth striving for!

Once Broken..

i've learnt that ..

once whatever tanglible or untangible thing is broken, it is considered beyond the "before-condition", beyond repair, beyond hope! of course, the common and usual slogan would be "once broken considered sold" which often could be found in gift shops next to fragile stuffs!

However

no matter how much time and effort is spent on getting it back to its originility, nothing can be the same ever again. even if the repair is perfectly altered, nothing will ever be the same as before...

i have paid a high price to learn the fact that relationships, once "broken", can never be "repaired".. even if it is a miniature crack

Changes are inevitable but for a broken relationship,

it is hard to retain the feelings,

to maintain the same level of trust and understanding,

to be able to communicate with same familiarity and closeness

Gentle yet Tough

i've learnt that

i am not capable of being gentle in appearance or action wise..
and more inapt as i m, in being emotionally tough..

my working environment is such that i am constantly in need of handling things, be them equipments or apparatus, with such great care because each of them can cost such hefty amount that it will burn indeed a great hole in my pocket for every broken piece and damages done!

yet

even after spending so much time in lab,

breathing in so much chemicals,

handling so much skin,ears,eyes damaging stuffs

gentleness does not become of me nor have i learn to deal these things with care and cautions..

so i rather not keep a record of the long list of things which are not going to be their perfect original forms!

as for the other un-working aspect of mine, i have to deal with "bombs", unhappiness, loneliness and every other imperfections of life.

i m not strong. in other words, it would simply mean that i am a PARASITE! a very dependent person..one who can't stand on one's own feet.

neither am i able to control my emotions and my thoughts.

and at times, i m "attacked" by some "abnormal" crazy thoughts which can inhibit in the mind for months..

this "extraordinary" characters of mine or rather property of my MIND, is the very testimony to the recent events that took place!

Anyway, all I want to say is that

"gentle (in appearance or actions wise) yet ..(emotionally) tough.."

is what i aim to achieve..

so, ya..cheers to "dilobear's life time aim"

eys are meant for..

i've learnt..

that eyes are meant for seeing things, for observing things, for looking beyond the superficial ..And they are linked to the brain and with the accompany of ears at each side ..which in other word simply mean, look not just with eyes but think with mind and hear it well.

And to strike a balance for the vision, one is given not just one but a pair of them ..hope one can make full use of what we have..

hoat la? :)

dilobear's lesson 1

I've learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life..

and I am still aching from that decision of mine...

wonder when I will get to heal...

sigh :(